Hey y’all!! It’s been a very hot minute since I last posted. I’ve been allowing myself to take some time to transition from student to young professional these past couple of months.
Just a quick update: I now work as a registered nurse full time in what is basically my dream job! I have a super supportive team and team lead (who may or may not be reading this. Hey!👋🏾), a stable learning environment, and several opportunities before me. But despite all that I still feel, for lack of better words, unsettled. It’s not uncommon for new grads or new professionals to feel anxious about their futures, especially when there is a lot of (unintentional) pressure coming from family and friends -“What’s your next career move? Where do you see this taking you? When are you getting your own place? When are you getting married? Are you seeing anyone?”
As you can probably already tell, these looming questions make me feel like I am being pulled in several directions at once. Which, I believe, all contributes to that unsettled feeling.
I have some unmet expectations of myself as well. Once I started working I thought that I would be able to create new recipes and blog more frequently. I thought that I would be able to hang out with my family more often, volunteer more often, take on new projects, etc., etc., etc. But here’s the catch guys: Working life is TIRING. Sometimes you need to allow life to be slow for a moment and find your rhythm. Now that I’m not having to study with my spare time I actually need to ask myself “is this a priority?” before I actually go ahead and commit to anything (even writing this blog post).
Because, as some of you have already figured out, real life is not like university where it’s easy to build connections and find opportunities. You have to put in an intentional effort to do the things you want to do. And I’m no physicist but effort equals energy and we only have so much of it. It’s silly to burn yourself out doing things that don’t move you in the right direction. I’ve been learning not to do things simply because our culture says “busy is good, busy is productive”.
The reason I ask myself this question is because I often find myself wanting to do things just to fill up my time -because I feel like I should be doing something. But if it’s not going to get me where God has called me to be then what’s the point 🤷🏾♀️.
To counter that “busy is good” mentality I have written a personal mission statement. Which highlights, who I want to be, where I hope to be, my values, and my beliefs. So the next time I ask myself “is this a priority?” I know exactly where my priorities lie.
Another thing I wanted to share is that I have been learning (very slowly) to cultivate a heart of gratitude.
Have you ever thought about how easy it is to be discontented? All you have to do is decide you want something else. Seriously. You could be the world’s greatest mathematician but then decide you want to be a chef. You could have a very healthy family then tell yourself that you wish you weren’t a middle child because middle children generally get less attention. If you want to be ungrateful, you can be ungrateful, just go on social media, there will always be someone with a better car, more money, or a cooler job than you.
Conversely, if you want to be grateful you can choose to submit to a posture of gratitude and contentment. I am smiling as I write this because as I intentionally choose gratitude, I realize more and more what I have been blessed with. I find that so refreshing!
Initially, this post was meant to be on self-care but it kind of turned into a life update/ what I’ve been learning post. I guess I had a lot to say 🙈
Wishing you all the best friends!
With gratitude and kindness,